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Can the pressure to lose weight keep you from losing it?

Enjoy this guest post by one of our amazing clinical dietitians Narmin Virani, RD, LDN

Today, I want to tell you a story.  I have had some very interesting conversations with a few post-op patients that I simply had to share.  I met 3-4 post-op patients over the last 2 months or so, all of whom were about 6-24 months post bariatric surgery, starting to regain some weight, struggling with getting back on track.  Very similar situations.  These were all bright and sensible women, who had each encountered some stress in their lives.  One had to pick up extra hours at work due to a coworker of hers getting fired, one had some medical issues that had got worse, one was caring for an elderly parent, while one had had an accident that caused her to take leave from work.  Due to these additional demands on their time and energy, or due to not being physically able, all had got off track with exercise.  This led to some weight regain for all of them.  This weight regain led to feeling depressed and discouraged, which led to low motivation with planning and preparing meals.  This led to eating out, not caring about meal planning, which led to guilt.  This guilt made the feelings of depression/discouragement worse, which led to “comfort eating”, which caused some more weight gain.

What struck me about each of these women was that they all were feeling terrible about their weight gain, said they almost didn’t attend their follow-ups because of that, were beating up on themselves for having got off track, and were wondering if they could go on a crash diet to lose the weight they had gained.  These women had all encountered some very real stressors that life can sometimes throw at us.  But instead of being kind and compassionate to themselves during these difficult times, they beat up on themselves for gaining weight, which ironically discouraged them further.  It made me realize: the pressure to lose weight can keep you from losing weight!  How ironical!

Now, as someone who has been doing weight-loss counseling for 15 years, and as someone who had my share of weight cycling/crash dieting as a teenager/young adult, here are my 2 cents of wisdom I’ve gleaned over the years:

  1. The scale can be a double-edged sword.  Yes, having a weight goal can sometimes be motivating, but at other times can lead to discouragement and feelings of failure.
  2. There will come times in your lives, when you will have to put weight loss on hold.  Times when you are overwhelmed with extra demands on your time and energy or times when you are sick.  At such times, chasing weight loss will only add to your stress, and stress can deplete your motivation.
  3. At such times, focusing on self-care – eating foods that nourish and satisfy you, moving in ways that de-stress and energize you – will actually motivate you and help you lose weight. Thinking that losing the weight you have regained first will motivate you to plan meals and move more is actually a “backwards” way of going about it.
  4. At such times, accepting and respecting your body can lead to nourishing and caring for it, while being critical can lead to body-punishing exercise/diets that are hard to sustain.
  5. At such times, going on a crash diet might leave you hungry, tired, deprived, and miserable for a few weeks, and make you lose a lot of water weight, which would come back on as soon as you added regular foods back in.  And you may already know this, but dieting leads to deprivation, deprivation leads to cravings, cravings lead to out-of-control eating.
  6. Satisfaction and Convenience are 2 key ingredients for long term success.  You could be on the world’s healthiest diet, but if you are not satisfied, you could end up thinking about and looking for food all the time, because you’re missing something.  Similarly, if it takes a lot of time and effort to put together meals daily, it will be hard to keep up during busy periods in your life.
  7. Satisfaction means eating foods that are not only filling, but that also leave you feeling energized, and that please your palate.  It’s striking a balance between taste and health, allowing yourself regular indulgences without guilt.  Convenience means keeping frozen meals on hand as back-up for busy days, and knowing that it’s perfectly okay to get take-out meals at times, which may include some healthy choices and some not-so-healthy ones that you are craving, without guilt
  8. These times in your lives are BUMPS IN THE ROAD, NOT THE END OF THE ROAD.  And the more you focus on self-care vs. weight at these times, the sooner you will lose the weight you have gained.  And it’s okay to tell well-meaning family members who instill the fear of relapse in you, that they are not helping.
  9. Maybe you won’t lose 80-100 lbs, but say 30-50 lbs.  But what’s the point of losing 80-100 lbs if you’re unsatisfied all the time?  Isn’t it better to lose a little and keep it off, than to lose a lot and gain it back? And aren’t health and quality of life more important than weight?
  10. As far as comfort-eating goes – for a person for whom food is the only way they have learnt to soothe their soul, turning to food at stressful times is actually a very smart survival mechanism – without it, they may either jump off a bridge or take to other, more dangerous ways of self-numbing.  The problem is not turning to food for comfort – everyone does it at times – the problem is when food is the only source of comfort.  The solution?  Cultivating other ways to cope and soothe – from building strong support systems, to making time for rest and recreation without guilt, to putting your needs above those of others.

Of course, all this is easier said than done, when you have spent half your life dieting, chasing weight goals, beating up on yourself for your weight, eating by numbers – calories/carbs/etc, and forgotten what true hunger/fullness/satisfaction feel like.  It’s natural to keep reverting back to what’s familiar and comfortable, even though we know it doesn’t always serve us.  It’s easier to be critical rather than accepting of our bodies in a thinness-obsessed society.  It’s harder to give yourself credit for the weight you have lost and kept off, and easier to beat up on yourself for the weight you’ve gained.  This is why support groups are helpful.  For sharing your struggles, which might not be yours alone.  For coming up with ideas for coping with stress.  For coming up with ways to practice self-kindness and compassion.  For cheering others on who may be struggling.  For sharing your stories of what helped you get through the tough times in your life.

Don’t ever give up!  Take each day at a time!  Eat in ways that satisfy you!  Move in ways that give you more energy, help you sleep better, reduce stress/anxiety!  Come to your follow-up appointments, we are here to help, not judge you! And oh, take that number on the scale with a grain of salt!

“For both excessive and insufficient exercise destroy one’s strength, and both eating too much or too little destroy health, whereas the right quantity produces, increases and preserves it” – Aristotle

Narmin Virani, RD, LDN

Clinical Dieititan, Weight Center
UMass Memorial Medical Center

 

 

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by | June 13, 2017 · 8:15 pm

Confusion about Muscle Confusion

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Muscle confusion is a big selling point in the fitness industry these days.   It is built on the fact that as the body “gets used to” an exercise, or builds muscle memory, it burns less calories.  The belief is you need to mix up your exercise to keep your body burning calories.

First, lets take a step back.  Why do you want to lose weight?  To make everyday life and the fun things easier? To be more comfortable in your body? To reduce pain?  To feel better? To improve health?

And, I am guessing you want those great benefits to last, right?

If that sounds like what you want, muscle memory is your friend!

For the things you need to do in daily life to be easier, it takes practice.   If you are always practicing something different, your body does not build muscle memory as well.   In everyday life we need stregnth for movements like bending down and getting back up, stepping up, lifting overhead, pushing, pulling, lifting and carrying objects.  Doing these movements on a regular basis, at a level that comfortably challenges them over and above the level of daily life, will make them easier.   This is why muscle memory is your friend.  Instead of playing the calorie burning game, you get what you truly want from weight loss.

Second,  your body is still burning calories!  The total decrease in calories burned is small.  Instead of playing that numbers game, put your energy into reducing the calories you take in from eating for reasons other than hunger.  These calories can add up much more!

The muscle confusion approach is taking one piece of science and applying it in a way that is very profitable for the fitness industry.   Yet, it leaves people who want fitness for improves health and function missing out on building muscle memory, doing sustainable exercise programs and feeling better now and in the future.

The bottom line: Life can be complicated and confusing enough! Your exercise time does not need to be.  Your body does adapt and yes, because it is smart, it will burn a few less calories for an activity when it builds muscle memory.  The calorie difference is not worth what you are missing out on by focusing on muscle confusion.   Focus on muscle memory and enjoy a body that makes it easier to enjoy your life!

Keep Moving, Be Well

Janet

Please share these posts with anyone you know interested in losing weight with or without weight loss surgery.  Click here to learn more about the UMass Memorial Weight Center

These weekly blogs are general guidelines. These guidelines apply to patients who are cleared by a physician for the type of exercise described. Please contact your physician with any concerns or questions. Always report any symptoms associated with exercise, such as pain, irregular heartbeats, and dizziness or fainting, to your physician

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by | June 7, 2017 · 5:38 pm

June Post-Bariatric Surgery Support Group

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by | May 31, 2017 · 7:18 pm

Resilience!

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Some members of my family just returned from Haiti.  When I saw this picture I was just amazed.  It is impressive enough how people walk for miles and miles balancing heavy objects on their head. This woman is doing it with one leg!!!

Years ago I taught aerobics for people with disabilities.  I will never forget the woman  with a birth defect where the only limb she was born with was a left arm. I can still picture her in her wheelchair doing aerobics like nobody’s business!

Here at the Weight Center there are countless stories of resilience.  The images in the header above are just a few.  These are snapshots of success but in between I know were many days of challenges to overcome in order to get there.  cropped-keep_moving_banner_09-301.jpg

We all have our challenges.  Some days are much harder than others.  This is not meant to be an article to make you feel guilty when you skip exercise.  Just the opposite.  It is a reminder that resiliency only comes from our challenges.

When your life is limited by your body, it is a challenge.  It is those challenges, combined with a sense of purpose, that create resiliency. And resiliency is what it takes to keep moving forward.  We don’t move forward in one straight line.  We will have days the challenges win.  Resiliency does not come over night.  It is a gradual strength that only comes from being committed to doing the best you can at meeting your challenges day by day by day.

Keep Moving, Be Well

Janet

Please share these posts with anyone you know interested in losing weight with or without weight loss surgery.  Click here to learn more about the UMass Memorial Weight Center

These weekly blogs are general guidelines. These guidelines apply to patients who are cleared by a physician for the type of exercise described. Please contact your physician with any concerns or questions. Always report any symptoms associated with exercise, such as pain, irregular heartbeats, and dizziness or fainting, to your physician.

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by | May 30, 2017 · 8:37 pm

Avoiding a Detour

I just finished the book Presence by Amy Cuddy. If you have not seen her TED talk, I highly recommend it.  Dr. Cuddy is a researcher who studies how our body language shapes our behavior. The  book is filled with amazing evidence from her research* and a whole slew of others, about how our body position changes how we think and behave.

detour-44160__480Sustainable weight loss is about keeping ourselves on course when detours pop up.    You come to the end of a VERY long day and you planned on walking, but it is cold and rainy and all you want to do is go home and veg out on the couch.  You are in the midst of a week of chaos in your life and you can’t even think of getting to the gym for  strength training. You get on the scale and feel completely defeated because, despite your best efforts, it is two pounds up!

What if we could get derailed less and back on track easier? What if it was something with research behind it that was simple, free, and completely accessible to you in any moment?  Would you try it?  Even if it seemed a bit strange and unlikely to make a difference?

It turns out that when our body is in a position with shoulders and back rounded we feel less confident.  We are less likely to make choices that are in line with what is most important to us.

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But, when we stand with shoulders and chest open, we are more confident, more likely to stick with what is most important to us.

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It is interesting that across many different cultures and situations, the most common expression of success is raising arms up in a “V”.   We now have some evidence this may work in reverse too!

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Give it a try!  Next time you step in the scale, put your hands on your hips and stand like your favorite superhero!  In the middle of a stressful day, stand or sit in alignment with your body strong.  When you are tempted to skip exercise, stand or sit with your arms up in a “victory” position for two minutes.

Post what happens in the comments section below!

Keep Moving, Be Well

Janet

*You may have heard some news flashes years ago debunking Dr. Cuddy’s research.  If you read her book, you will see that her study on power poses are just one in many showing there is something powerful in the way we hold our body.  Research is tricky business and one study does not prove anything.  Your best evidence is to try this for yourself and see how it works for you. 

 

Please share these posts with anyone you know interested in losing weight with or without weight loss surgery.  Click here to learn more about the UMass Memorial Weight Center

These weekly blogs are general guidelines. These guidelines apply to patients who are cleared by a physician for the type of exercise described. Please contact your physician with any concerns or questions. Always report any symptoms associated with exercise, such as pain, irregular heartbeats, and dizziness or fainting, to your physician.

 

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by | May 15, 2017 · 5:38 pm

Myth #10 – Toning and Sculpting

Words and images promoting toning and sculpting the body through exercise seem to be  everywhere we turn.   The wonders of technology provide us with images of people going from flabby to firm arms and legs and from muffin-top to muscular core.  The technology makes it look so easy… and possible.

Unfortunately these tout the wonders of computer science rather than movement science.  The body does not burn more fat in an area when we exercise that area.  So sit ups and triceps exercise will not but fat in these “problem areas”.  We just do not have as much control over how exercise makes our body appear as the popular images lead us to believe.   Fortunately there are real benefits of exercise and focusing on them keeps us motivated with real results!

What does work?

  1. A healthy attitude of self  kindness for the body you do have!  Research consistently shows that people who are kind and compassionate to themselves when making healthy changes are much more likely to stick to those changes than those who are critical of themselves.
  2. Let go of the idea that you can spot reduce (exercise a part of the body to lose more fat there).  It is just not science based!   As an example, go back to our discussion of the true job of core exercises as a guide for true exercise in this area of the body.  When you see ads with images of changed bodies, know the images have most likely been altered to get your attention.  Its just not reality based.
  3. Be consistent with a balance between cardiovascular exercise and strength training in the ways we have

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    been discussing here on Keep Moving Weekly.

  4. Set function goals rather than “form” goals.  We have much more control over how our body functions than how it looks.  What do you want to be easier?  Golf? Playing with children? Climbing stairs? Travel? Housecleaning? Walking?  Develop your exercise plan based on how you want to function better.  Based on the reality of how the body works, these goals lead to lasting motivation.
  5. Work within your genetics.   If your goal is to look better, instead of trying to “get a body” that looks like someone else,  be the best you that you can be.
  6. Celebrate You! Keep yourself off the downward spiral of comparison, competition and self-criticism.  Set your own goals based on what you want and what is really possible and celebrate each day what you accomplished to get there.

Keep Moving, Be Well

Janet

Please share these posts with anyone you know interested in losing weight with or without weight loss surgery.  Click here to learn more about the UMass Memorial Weight Center

These weekly blogs are general guidelines. These guidelines apply to patients who are cleared by a physician for the type of exercise described. Please contact your physician with any concerns or questions. Always report any symptoms associated with exercise, such as pain, irregular heartbeats, and dizziness or fainting, to your physician.

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by | May 3, 2017 · 6:06 pm

The All-in-One Gauge

gasImagine if the gas gauge on a car measured everything – gas, oil, windshield wiper fluid, water?   Just one gauge for everything together.  How helpful would that gauge be for you?  How would you know what it needed when the gauge was on low?

The scale measures everything – fat, muscle, water, food, clothing – all together in one gauge.   Why then, do we put so much emotion into what it says?

Scale goes down – elation!  Scale goes up – frustration!

Even if it was up because you were on Prednisone that week, or your legs were swollen – that higher number can be so frustrating.  And if it goes down quickly – even if you know that 30% of what was lost was muscle because you were not doing strength training, elation still happens!

Yes, we weigh you here at the Weight Center and look for that number to go down. It is our best objective tool to know that what you are doing is helping.  But it is by no means a perfect tool.    It’s an “all in one” gauge!  That would not be helpful on your car, and it is certainly not helpful if that’s all we use to measure success with healthy lifestyle changes.

So we use other gauges.  How do you feel?  Do you have more energy?  How are you doing with emotional eating? Are you able to do more now than you could before?  Are your clothes fitting better?   Are you doing strength training?  These are the other measures we use as a guide because the scale is an “all in one” guage.

Next time you step on the scale, keep in mind it is an all-in-one measurement.  Use your other measures to really guide you with how your lifestyle changes are working.

Keep Moving, Be Well,

Janet

Please share these posts with anyone you know interested in losing weight with or without weight loss surgery.  Click here to learn more about the UMass Memorial Weight Center

These weekly blogs are general guidelines. These guidelines apply to patients who are cleared by a physician for the type of exercise described. Please contact your physician with any concerns or questions. Always report any symptoms associated with exercise, such as pain, irregular heartbeats, and dizziness or fainting, to your physician.

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by | April 26, 2017 · 6:56 pm